What We Are Reading Today: The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

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Updated 19 April 2022
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What We Are Reading Today: The Defining Decade by Meg Jay

In The Defining Decade, Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.

Our “thirty-is-the-new-twenty” culture tells us that the twentysomething years don’t matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. But thirty is not the new twenty.

Drawing from more than ten years of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients, Jay weaves the science of the twentysomething years with compelling stories from twentysomethings themselves.

She shares what psychologists and economists know about the unique power of our twenties and how they change our lives.

The result is a provocative and sometimes poignant read that shows us why our twenties do matter.

Our twenties are a time when the things we do — and the things we don’t do — will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.


What We Are Reading Today: Shame: The Politics and Power of an Emotion

Updated 23 December 2025
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What We Are Reading Today: Shame: The Politics and Power of an Emotion

Author: David Keen

Today, we are caught in a shame spiral—a vortex of mutual shaming that pervades everything from politics to social media. We are shamed for our looks, our culture, our ethnicity, our sexuality, our poverty, our wrongdoings, our politics. But what is the point of all this shaming and countershaming? Does it work? And if so, for whom?

In Shame, David Keen explores the function of modern shaming, paying particular attention to how shame is instrumentalized and weaponized. Keen points out that there is usually someone who offers an escape from shame—and that many of those who make this offer have been piling on shame in the first place. Self-interested manipulations of shame, Keen argues, are central to understanding phenomena as wide-ranging as consumerism, violent crime, populist politics, and even war and genocide. Shame is political as well as personal. To break out of our current cycle of shame and shaming, and to understand the harm that shame can do, we must recognize the ways that shame is being made to serve political and economic purposes.

Keen also traces the rise of leaders on both sides of the Atlantic who possess a dangerous shamelessness, and he asks how shame and shamelessness can both be damaging.