Lebanon’s Aoun: Talks underway amid disputes with Israel over border wall, energy

Lebanese President Michel Aoun is seen at the presidential palace in Baabda, Lebanon, November 7, 2017. (Reuters)
Updated 08 February 2018
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Lebanon’s Aoun: Talks underway amid disputes with Israel over border wall, energy

BEIRUT, Feb 8 : Lebanese President Michel Aoun said on Thursday that talks were underway “to prevent Israeli greed” amid bilateral disputes over a border wall and an offshore energy block in disputed waters.
“Communications are ongoing through the United Nations and friendly states to handle this issue... hoping that Israel does not escalate,” Aoun told a cabinet session, according to his office.
“We will confront any attack” on Lebanon’s territory or waters, he said. 
 


Book Review: ‘Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff’

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Book Review: ‘Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff’

If you are someone who adopts a new year, new me mindset every Dec. 31, then Matt Paxton’s 2022 book “Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff: Declutter, Downsize, and Move Forward with Your Life,” written with Jordan Michael Smith, is worth picking up.

In the process of reading it, I found myself filling four bags with items to donate.

Paxton’s approach is notably different from Marie Kondo’s once-ubiquitous Japanese tidying method, which asks readers to pile all their possessions into one part of the room, hold each item up and ask whether it sparks joy.

While Kondo’s philosophy sounds appealing on paper — thanking objects and dedicating an entire weekend to the process — it is not realistic for everyday life. Paxton’s method feels more practical and gentler.

Paxton knows the emotional terrain of clutter well. For more than 20 years he has helped people declutter and downsize. He was a featured cleaner on the reality show “Hoarders” and later hosted the Emmy-nominated “Legacy List with Matt Paxton” on PBS.

Through this work, Paxton gained insight into why people hold on to things and what makes letting go difficult even of what seemingly looks useless.

What works especially well is how personal the book feels from the outset.

He opens by explaining his anxiety-inducing decision to move to a different US state with his three children, and all of their stuff, to live with his new wife and all of her stuff.

Together, they would be raising seven children — very Brady Bunch style — but with slightly more practical life considerations.

He also talks about how he got into this line of work. When he was in his 20s, his father died and he had to help clear out his belongings. He found that process to be cathartic and special. And he was good at it.

Soon after, short on cash, he accepted a job from someone in his small, close-knit community to help organize her home — likely hired out of pity more than anything else.

That slow process of sifting through items and learning the stories behind each one — directly from the owner of those objects — sparked plenty of joy. He was hooked.

Throughout the book, Paxton makes the case for consistency. His advice is manageable. He encourages readers to dedicate just 10 minutes a day to decluttering to form a habit. We all can spare that.

Paxton also stresses the importance of communication.

Talk to your loved ones about what you want done with your belongings when you are no longer around, and just as importantly, listen to what they want done with theirs, he urges. He offers practical guidance on having these conversations with parents, partners and children.

One critique of this book is that Paxton dedicates a large portion to physical photographs. While this is relevant for many older readers, it may feel less urgent going forward, particularly for Gen Z and younger, whose clutter is more likely to be solely digital.

Ultimately, “Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff” is less about getting rid of things than about making space; by speaking about objects, sharing their stories and allowing them — and each of us — to move on.