MANILA: When Jarrah Brillantes first realized she did not want children, the decision stemmed from her community development work — a mission she was unwilling to set aside. Over the years that choice only strengthened, shaped by the lifestyle she chose for herself.
A policy researcher from Iloilo City, Brillantes has been working with children in conflict zones, where she has seen how the environment affects a child’s development. Raising her own while continuing work, she felt, would not support their full potential.
“It would be unfair,” Brillantes, 38, told Arab News. “The change of residence. The change of career track. Studying again (in) my thirties. These would be challenging and probably selfish if I have a child.”
While Brillantes sometimes engages in babysitting for her family members, she never regrets her choice to be childfree.
“Having a typical Filipino family, children are raised as a tribe. Whenever I have to play the part of the temporary guardian to my niece and nephews, I see that is not the role I want to undertake,” she said.
“While some are (in) the parenting phase of their adult life, there are other things that we undertake too. We put in the work on our career, on our advocacies, our big goals. The most basic and affirming is, that my days go according to my needs and wants.”
Brillantes is one of the growing numbers of Filipino women who choose to have no children, marking a significant shift in a nation where motherhood is deeply tied to a woman’s identity.
A study published earlier this year by Dr. Anthony Luis B. Chua from the Cebu Institute of Medicine and two researchers from Michigan State University shows the prevalence of childfree women in the Philippines has increased dramatically over the past few years.
Childfree women are defined as those who “do not have children and do not want to have them in the future.”
The research, “Trends in the Prevalence of Childfree Women in the Philippines, 1993-2022,” indicates that the number of Filipinas making such a choice has jumped from nearly 4.2 percent in 2013 to 11.1 percent in 2022.
While the researchers linked the sharp rise with the passage of the 2012 Responsible Parenthood and Reproductive Health Act, and provided universal access to sexual education and contraception, women say it is in the first place a matter of personal choice.
“I do believe kids need both a father and a mother. When I decided not to marry, I knew I also preferred to remain childfree,” said Jeamma Claire Sabate, a 56-year-old government employee from Cainta, Rizal.
“In the 21st century, people recognize that women have the right to make choices that align with their preferences.”
In the deeply Catholic Philippines, the Constitution prohibits abortion and recognizes “the Filipino family as the foundation of the nation.”
Dr. Diana Veloso, associate professor at the Department of Sociology and Behavioral Sciences of De La Salle University, argues that this dominant cultural linking of womanhood to motherhood is a result of the colonial past that brought patriarchy to the Philippines.
“Precolonial culture was more egalitarian and gender inclusive. The increasing choice in favor of being childfree is a welcome change in that it is reversing the impact of such patriarchal gender norms that were brought about by colonialism. This is also a way of reclaiming our culture’s more inclusive gender norms in precolonial times,” she said.
“This also illustrates that parenthood is more intentional, rather than something that simply happens due to conformity to traditional gender norms.”
The visible social change does not mean, however, that women no longer face pressure to get married and have children.
“That is still the case in Philippine society. However, women have more options and people recognize that there are multiple avenues to fulfillment in this day and age — and that having children is not meant for everyone,” Veloso told Arab News.
Farah Decano, a law school dean from Pangasinan province, remembers experiencing pressure on motherhood from those around her.
“But I didn’t mind. I am cool about it,” she said, adding she prefers channeling her nurturing instincts elsewhere — looking after her nephews, nieces, and aging mother.
“It is fun because I can spoil them without having to worry about shaping their behavior,” she said. “And I get to enjoy a limited authority similar to a mother, too. I am already living the life. I cannot ask for more.”
