JEDDAH: As people across Saudi Arabia and the world prepare for Eid Al-Adha, it is the perfect time to teach your children about the spirit of giving. Charity and the distribution of food to the needy are key components of this Islamic holiday and so, this year, follow these top tips to get your loved ones involved in helping the less fortunate.
Children’s personalities and characteristics can be shaped early on and encouraging them to show empathy and generosity from a young age is important, according to Dr. Reham F. Gassas, a family therapist at King Abdulaziz Medical City in Riyadh.
“Giving to others and being part of the community is an important role for a child to learn in order to be an effective part of her or his community,” Gassas said, before adding that it teaches children to “empathize with each other, be caring and be understanding of the feelings and needs of others.
“Our religion and culture teach us to love for others what you love for yourself. The child will observe their caregiver… giving their attention, time, money, food and clothes to others,” which will help the child understand the importance of charity, she added.
Simple acts of kindness
Children learn by example so it is important to teach them that charity is not just about giving away money and material items, it is also about being kind and compassionate.
Paying it forward with small acts of kindness can help to teach children about the value of giving their time and energy to another person. For young children, teaching them to be kind to elderly members of the family and the wider community — with a smile or helping them find a seat — can go a long way in instilling a sense of compassion in them.
Encouraging your child to complete one random act of kindness a day — such as leaving a greeting note on a friend’s desk at school, picking a flower for a family member or buying sweet treats for their playground friends — will help to make them understand that small things count.
Caring for creatures
Allowing your children to take care of a pet or a stray animal is a great way to teach them about responsibility and compassion.
Instead of buying your pet from a store, head down to your local adoption agency and allow your child to choose a rescue animal. It is important that kids learn about the ramifications of owning a pet and seeing first-hand the plight of some animals in such shelters is a good way to teach children about making a lifelong commitment to their pets.
If adoption is not an option, leaving food on the corner of the street twice a day teaches young children to share and be kind to animals. Keeping a bowl of fresh water for birds or filling a bird feeder with seeds in a nearby tree is a form of charity as well.
Why not create a handy chart of feeding times on the fridge? Asking young children to stick to a regular schedule and share the responsibility of feeding an animal with their siblings will teach them to care for another living being in an adult manner.
Spending time with the needy
Parents can encourage their older children to be giving by asking them to help distribute food and drink at their local mosque or charitable establishment, for example. Asking young children to create and give away trinkets and jewelry out of material found at any craft store is also a good way to help children understand that time and effort is as important as money when it comes to giving charity.
Visiting local orphanages and homes for the elderly or disabled is also an eye-opening experience for young children. Kids can provide gifts from their own toy collections and spend some time playing with less fortunate children or simply make an elderly person’s day by chatting with them for an hour or so.
If you wish to take part in local charity events or volunteer your time, it is important to make sure the charitable organization is licensed and the event has proper government approval.
Volunteering is an important way in which your child can learn about working hard in order to give back to the local community. Many charities across Saudi Arabia hold fundraising functions, simply give them a call and find out if they need volunteers for the day.
Nada M.N., a freshman at King Abdulaziz University, enjoys volunteering at various events and has been encouraged to do so by her parents who hope that such efforts will go a long way in building up the local community.
“I love spending time at these events because I get to meet so many people, we are all goal-oriented individuals and being a part of any event makes me feel like I am a part of an entity, one that serves to provide joy, and sometimes charity, to those in need,” she told Arab News.
“I remember my older sisters participating in the distribution of goods in Ramadan and I’ve always wanted to do what they did. They would come back home tired but the stories they would tell us of how much joy they brought to the faces of those in need were priceless.”
Gassas agrees that encouraging a child to take on some form of volunteering or charity work will ensure “more social justice” in society.
It will result in “a child who grows up to become a responsible member of this community. A member who puts the interests of others in their mind (before they make a) decision and someone who advocates for others and ensures that the community gives attention to those who are less fortunate.”
This Hajj season, teach your kids about charity
This Hajj season, teach your kids about charity
In southeast Pakistan, Ramadan brings Hindus and Muslims closer
MITHI: Partab Shivani, a Hindu in Muslim-majority Pakistan, has fasted on and off during Ramadan for years, but this time is different as he practices abstinence for the entire holy month.
Every year, he and his friends in the southeastern city of Mithi arrange iftar, when Muslims break their daily fast, to foster peace and solidarity between the two religions.
“I believe we need to promote interfaith harmony. First, we are humans — religions came later,” Shivani, a 48-year-old social activist, told AFP, adding that he also reads the teachings of the Buddha.
“His message is about peace and ending war. Peace can spread through solidarity and by standing with one another. Distance only widens the gap between people,” he added.
Ninety-six percent of Pakistan’s 240 million people are Muslim. Just two percent are Hindu, most of them living in rural areas of Sindh province where Mithi is located.
In Mithi itself, most of the 60,000 inhabitants are Hindu.
Many of the city’s Hindus also observe Ramadan and iftar has become a social gathering where people from both faiths happily participate.
“This has been a wonderful tradition of ours for a very long time,” said Mir Muhammad Buledi, a 51-year-old Muslim friend who attended Shivani’s iftar gathering.
“It is a beautiful example of harmony between the two communities.”
Like brothers
Discrimination against minorities runs deep in Pakistan.
Following the end of British rule in South Asia in 1947, the subcontinent was partitioned into mainly Hindu India and Muslim-majority Pakistan.
That triggered widespread religious bloodshed in which hundreds of thousands were killed and millions displaced.
According to the Human Rights Commission of Pakistan, freedom of religion or belief is under constant threat, with religiously motivated violence and discrimination increasing yearly.
State authorities, often using religious unrest for political gain, have failed to address the crisis, the independent non-profit says.
But such tensions are absent in Mithi.
“I am a Hindu but I keep all the fasts during this month,” said Sushil Malani, a local politician. “I feel happy standing with my Muslim brothers.
“We celebrate Eid together as well. This tradition in the region is very old.”
Restaurants and tea stalls are closed across Pakistan during Ramadan.
Ramesh Kumar, a 52-year-old Hindu man who sells sweets and savoury items outside a Muslim shrine, keeps his push cart covered and closed until iftar.
“There is no discrimination among us if someone is Muslim or Hindu. I have been seeing this since my childhood that we all live together like brothers,” he said.
Muslim shrine, Hindu caretaker
Locals say Mithi’s peaceful religious coexistence can be traced to its remote location, emerging from the sand dunes of the Tharparkar desert, which borders the modern Indian state of Rajasthan.
Cows — considered sacred in Hinduism — roam freely in Mithi city, as they do in neighboring India.
At two Sufi Muslim shrines in the middle of the city, Hindu families arrange meals, bringing fruit, meals and juices for their Muslim neighbors to break their fasts.
“We respect Muslims,” said Mohan Lal Malhi, a Hindu caretaker of one of the shrines.
Mohan said his parents and elders taught him to respect people regardless of religion or color, and the traditions pass from one generation to the next.
Local residents said both communities consider their social relationships more important than their religious identity.
“You will see a (Sikh) gurdwara, a mosque, and a shrine standing side by side here,” Mohan said. “The atmosphere of this area teaches humanity.”
